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Joe Whitcomb, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #LMFT-51093
(619) 332-4448

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with decades of experience, I specialize in helping people and couples with relationship challenges, including finding and sustaining healthy intimacy, healing from a painful break-up or divorce, recovering from major loss, and growing up in difficult circumstances. One of my greatest passions is to help couples find deeper intimacy and connection with each other and with the Lord. I believe we have been created by God, wired for connection, and are worthy of love and belonging. Though we have all been broken and wounded in relationship, through God’s redemptive love, power, grace, and truth, we can be healed. No matter what situation you may be facing, it would be my honor to work with you.

San Diego – Mon-Fri (Online Only)
Carlsbad – Mon-Fri (in person or online)
Online Counseling

Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you desire to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your dating, premarital, marriage, or family relationship? We all want a lifetime of love, connection, belonging, support, and faith—but sometimes we need a little help. As your therapist, I will create a safe haven where you can learn to develop stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but also between you and God.

My Goal as a Christian Counselor

“The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of wisdom and understanding draws it out.”Proverbs 20:5

My goal is to create a safe haven and secure base so you can learn the necessary tools and exercises to help you overcome your current circumstances and successfully navigate future challenges. I want you to gain the emotional and relational skills needed to make your life and relationships the best they can possibly be. I’m committed to doing everything in my power to help you in your relationships, and I expect the same from you as we do the work together, relying on God’s help and strength.

What I Offer in Christian Counseling

“The Lord is my refuge, my safe haven, my rock.”Psalm 91:1

I offer a safe place where you can freely share the concerns on your mind and heart. I’ll shoot straight with you and hold you accountable, but we’ll also laugh and have fun. Counseling is serious work, and needs to be balanced with a sense of humor. I’m professional, yet relaxed and easy going. I’m flexible, creative, and an out-of-the-box thinker who cuts straight to the heart of the matter. I’ll do my best to set you at ease and help you feel comfortable through this challenging, yet rewarding process.

My Approach to Christian Counseling

“We love because he first loved us.”1 John 4:19

My understanding of fierce grace and redemptive, healing love has been shaped by my faith, trust, and confidence in God’s Word and the ways in which He has guided me through my own life challenges to help me discover joy in hardship. Through my relationship with God, I have gained deeper insights into life, love, and relationships.

My journey of faith has helped me better understand how the atonement of Jesus relates to the undoing of both fear and shame. Fear and shame are what we learned here since the Fall. God’s love heals and opens our eyes to help us see one another as God sees us—in our innocence, not our guilt. He is able to move us from fear and shame to love and acceptance as Christ accepts us.


Joe is a dedicated therapist who really cares about his clients. He is professional, warm and very engaging. I highly recommend him to anyone seeing high level therapeutic support,

Joe Whitcomb is a man of great compassion and wisdom. He was a light during a very dark time in my life. I am truly grateful for his counsel. He was a Gosend.

Due to a very unfortunate trauma I really struggled with expressing my emotions and sleeping! I went through the darkest times I had ever been through! Since coming to Joe Whitcomb I have now walked my own hero’s journey and fighting my way out of that dark time! I couldn’t thank joe more for the time and tools he had given me to figure out who I am! -Dakota G.

As a minister, I have recommended Joe Whitcomb to many people in our community of couples, and it has always been a very positive experience.

His experience and wisdom have been such a great source of help for people who are dealing with some of the deeper issues in life as well as for those who want to build a great foundation in their marriages.

I wholeheartedly believe in the work that Joe Whitcomb is doing, and we are all grateful and blessed for his contribution to our community.

My wife and I did our premarital counseling with Joe Whitcomb over 12 years ago. God centered therapy. To this day we still see Joe. His ability as a therapist and man of God continues to impact our marriage as he has equipped us with viable tools for our relationship. Big Love Joe Whitcomb!

Joe Whitcomb is beyond normal when you think nobody listens. He is
Thank you Joe!

I highly recommend Joe as his coaching methods make you not only feel heard but also understood. His coaching has had a tremendously positive impact in all aspects of my life.

Beyond my expectations! I’ve known Joe Whitcomb when I was both single and in a relationship and his wisdom and candor did wonders for me personally and when I was involved.

I’m so embedded with his book, “Reboot Your Relationship” it is required reading for any relationship that becomes serious. It’s just that good.

Dr. Joe Whitcomb is not only is a wonderful therapist to talk to but really understands where you’re coming from. His down-to-earth personality and focused approach on understanding my needs and goals made me feel like I was finally being heard. His expertise of EMDR therapy helped me get through a very traumatic experience; and for that, I can’t thank him enough!

He gave me such amazing advice on how to overcome obstacles I was struggling with as well as resources to refer to on my own time that continue to help me to this day! I have found his support invaluable in staying sane and the strategies and resources he provided have helped me grow, understand myself, and adopt habits that better support my mental health.

Joe Whitcomb is a total pro. I was in a very difficult situation and he completely resolved it in a sensible way that has provided a long-term, lasting solution. The benefit from his work is priceless. I can’t recommend him enough. Whether it’s Skype or In Person, he is extremely effective. Be sure to contact Joe whenever you run into trouble. I have full confidence he will be able to help.

I have been seeing Joe Whitcomb for a couple years now and he is an excellent therapist. He is an outstanding group counselor as well. He helped me realize my worth, understand my trauma, and work through my cognitive distortions. If you are looking for someone who can help you with trauma, family/romantic relationships, and self-worth. Joe is your guy! He is also just a sweet and funny person!

I’ve been working with Dr. Joe Witcomb He is one of the smartest, kindest and most generous individual I have ever met. He listens so intently and gives me direction and tools to help me understand and work through the trauma’s that have been hindering the decisions and the circumstances in my life. Thank you Dr. Joe Witcomb. I sure appreciate you!!!

When my husband and I were first dating we started to have some issues come up that we needed extra help with. Joe Whitcomb was so amazing in getting to the root of our problem and we have now been able to connect on a deeper level. We have been married for 1.5 years and we still use the tools we learned from Joe years later!

I have had the pleasure of working with Joe Whitcomb and can’t recommend him enough. He has extensive knowledge, wisdom, and practical experience. More importantly, he has deep empathy and practices kindness and compassion.

Joe Witcomb helped me during a difficult time and his guidance literally saved my life. He is one wise man

I have not been to San Diego Christian Counseling, but I listen to Joe Whitcomb’s Reboot Your Relationship podcast. I recommend it to all of my clients who are in relationships, have experienced trauma, and/or had difficult childhoods. My clients have responded they find his podcasts extremely relatable. He says it ‘how it is’, explains psychological concepts in laymen’s terms, is relatable, but more importantly, instills hope that there is indeed light at the end of the tunnel and change is possible. A definite “must listen to” for single people and couples alike!

I highly recommend Joe Whitcomb as his coaching methods make you not only feel heard but also understood. His coaching has had a tremendously positive impact in all aspects of my life.

Joe Whitcomb is very insightful, a good listener, compassionate, and caring. He has given me wisdom that encouraged me and helped me to look at myself through a new and gentler lens.

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Focus Areas

  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Coaching
  • Codependency
  • Couples Counseling
  • Depression
  • Executive Coaching
  • Family Counseling
  • Grief and Loss
  • Infidelity Recovery
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Men’s Issues
  • Premarital Counseling
  • Professional Development
  • Relationship Issues
  • Sexual Addiction
  • Spiritual Development
  • Trauma and PTSD